You Got a Degree But, Can You Get a Job?

Congratulations Women!  We are now earning 57% of the college degrees!!  Whoo-hooo!  We will soon close that nasty wage gap and have equal representation in the workplace all the way up to the board room.  Right? Not quite. When we focus just on getting a degree, any degree, we ignore

Women, Conformity, Validation and Confidence

It is common to hear that in comparison to men, women lack confidence and therefore seek more validation.   I’ve never believed this was a natural trait of women but a product of our conditioning.  As we grow from girls into women that conditioning is continuously reinforced so throug

Finding Solutions to Advance Women

In order to advance women in the workplace, women need solutions for the unique issues and challenges we face.  That is why I started this website – there weren’t enough women who had been deep into the male-dominated workplace sharing the lessons they learned on how to work with men

Women Need Solutions, Not More Studies

When women need career advice our first instinct is to look on the internet.  This is what I did a few years ago.  I successfully broke through a barrier that read, “No Women Past This Point” and I knew I could go further.  I just needed help to get there. After a few hours of reading

Everything I Needed to Know About Bullying I Learned in First Grade

If you haven’t figured it out from reading my articles, I believe in women standing up for themselves.  I believe women can stand up to anybody and to institutional power.  After thinking about why I feel so strongly about this, I realized I learned this powerful lesson in the first g

Find Your Niche, Find Your Personal Fulfillment

Have you ever noticed that people become really successful when they stop doing what other people say they should do and start doing things their way? There is something attractive and empowering about a person who is truly authentic.  I think a lot of it has to do with the way they p

Have You Thought About Female Doctors This Way?

When we think of female physicians, we think of specialties such as pediatrics, obstetrics and gynecology, family practice and veterinary.  Anyone with older parents may also add geriatric medicine to the list of the medical professions women choose to go into. If you think about why

It Isn’t Always About Power

The current narrative says that all  unwanted sexual attention and harassment is based in power.  It isn’t. Sometimes it is simply about sex. I’ve never had unwanted attention from or been sexually harassed or abused by any man I work for.  One senior manager may have wanted to but I

From #MeToo to Action

After reading an article I got in a comment battle with another woman over how women should respond to sexual harassment and assault.  She was very focused on offering empathy and sitting up all night with a woman who has been hurt.  To her offering empathy and understanding is what e

Embrace Your Quirks

The true secret to success is being yourself – your true authentic self, full of strengths, weakness and quirks. We all gladly embrace our strengths.  We love to show them off.  But we should also be proud of our weaknesses and quirks because through them we find real strength. Embrac

The HUGE Misperception Women Have About The Male-Dominated Workplace

Women have a HUGE misperception about the male-dominated workplace that has done incredible damage to our efforts to advance. Women work from a narrative that says men want to climb to the top so they can have power over others.  Many women believe men aspire to control and dominate o

Women Do More Than Create Balance

When we talk about how women influence the male-dominated workplace we often say that women create balance.  But that isn’t very impactful and it doesn’t portray the full power of women. When we think of women balancing men we equate it to men going too far and women tempering their e

Seeing and Believing In the Equality of Women

What value do women, bring to the workplace? For centuries the accepted answer was “None.”  Even today most of us can still only give a vague answer.  We hear that companies with more women perform better but we can’t specifically state why that is.  Without a clear answer, women don’

How Women Should Navigate the Drinking Culture

There are some industry cultures that endorse a drinking culture – frequently getting together after work to drink. Coming from one such industry I understand how it normalizes alcoholism and creates problems for women. Many women and women’s organization encourage women to participat

Don’t Lean In – Jersey Up!

A lot of women tell me I am strong.  My usual response is to screw up my face because I don’t think I am any different from many women I know.  Actually, I’m more restrained than them because after I left New Jersey I  learned that many people don’t know who to deal

There Was a Time When Men Were Gentlemen in the Workplace

We have a lot of impressions of what the professional office was like in the 1960’s and 1970’s.  But our impressions probably miss one important characteristic – its civility. When I began working in 1982 I was the first female engineer in a very traditional office.  Men were engineer

Finding the Self-Made Woman

America loves the story of the self-made man – the man who started his life in abject poverty and rose to the pinnacle of wealth and success.  It is story of extremes, drive and determination.  And it seems to be an almost exclusively male story. I went through the lists of the wealth

Change For Women Won’t Come From the Top Down

There is an old fallacy that change happens from the top down. It says that in order for a company to institute a new initiative the first must-do step is: Get CEO buy-in!  The CEO then gets the buy-in of senior management.  Senior management then directs the initiative down to middle

Gender Bias – So What?

I keep reading about how gender bias holds women back.  But gender bias has never been a topic I’ve given a second thought to.  Given my career that seems pretty odd. When I start a new job or project, I recognize that most of the men I work with never had a female peer who they have

The Power of “No”

Growing up women learn to say “No” to unacceptable behavior.   But people don’t always listen.  That’s because we are just saying “No” and not using the Power of “No.” Just saying “No” leaves the door open for negotiation. Does she really mean it?  Let me see.  Maybe if I pester her e