Women Need Solutions, Not More Studies

When women need career advice our first instinct is to look on the internet.  This is what I did a few years ago.  I successfully broke through a barrier that read, “No Women Past This Point” and I knew I could go further.  I just needed help to get there. After a few hours of reading

Everything I Needed to Know About Bullying I Learned in First Grade

If you haven’t figured it out from reading my articles, I believe in women standing up for themselves.  I believe women can stand up to anybody and to institutional power.  After thinking about why I feel so strongly about this, I realized I learned this powerful lesson in the first g

From #MeToo to Action

After reading an article I got in a comment battle with another woman over how women should respond to sexual harassment and assault.  She was very focused on offering empathy and sitting up all night with a woman who has been hurt.  To her offering empathy and understanding is what e

Embrace Your Quirks

The true secret to success is being yourself – your true authentic self, full of strengths, weakness and quirks. We all gladly embrace our strengths.  We love to show them off.  But we should also be proud of our weaknesses and quirks because through them we find real strength. Embrac

The Power of “No”

Growing up women learn to say “No” to unacceptable behavior.   But people don’t always listen.  That’s because we are just saying “No” and not using the Power of “No.” Just saying “No” leaves the door open for negotiation. Does she really mean it?  Let me see.  Maybe if I pester her e

You Wanted It, You Got It!

Several years ago I was working on a project where some senior male managers didn’t want a woman in charge.  They wanted to prove that anything I could do, a man could do better. This was a particularly difficult project and men lasted about 2 months.  So every 2 months, I was back in

To Be Taken Seriously, You Must Assert Yourself

I am on the board of a small organization where all board members have equal power.  However, our current President is on a power trip and is trying to use the organization for his own personal purposes.  Another woman and I are countering his efforts but we go about it very different

She Should Have Stood Up For Herself

Recently I read an article in which a woman wrote about her experience interviewing for a new job.   She did all the research on the job and knew how much she should be paid.  During the interview, the men who interviewed her offered her 30% less than she expected and said it was beca

She Got It Right

I need to brag about my youngest daughter because she proved herself a good role model to other Millennials. My daughter is in school to become a veterinary technician where she is required to do internships.  She wanted to do an internship at an equine clinic and she researched vario

How to Change Sexist Perceptions

I read a lot of articles about women in the workplace and it seems we are fixated on identifying every slight, bad comment and bit of poor behavior. I’ve been told many times that the intent is generate awareness of sexual biases in the workplace and let women know what they are facin

Be Confident In Your Doubts and Questions

We’ve all worked with that guy – you know, that guy who is so confident he has the answer for every situation and problem.  I’ve worked with lots of these guys over the years.  However, it was the first guy like this that I helped me figure out how to deal with them.  His name was Ter

It’s Time To Get Out Of The 20th Century And Start Thinking Like 21st Century Women

A couple of years ago I was introduced to a woman who coached professional women.  When I told her I was in the construction industry we struck up a conversation about the male-dominated workplace.  As she talked I kept thinking “That hasn’t really been my experience” but I continued

Championing Women’s Issues

Every 4 years, when the U.S. has a presidential election, women’s issues are discussed…mainly by male politicians, commentators and pundits who ignorantly speak with great authority .  This cycle was no exception. We had a debate over which bathrooms transgender people should use.  My

Should You Leave Your Job After Being Sexually Harassed?

Should a woman quit her job after being sexually harassed? Recently Trump stirred up some media controversy when he said that if his daughter Ivanka was sexually harassed at work “I would like to think she would find another career or find another company if that was the case.” This o

How Women Can Excel Above Men in Middle Management

When I was a kid growing up we understood that when people went to work, they did something tangible.  We understood what the mailman, policeman, salesman, doctor, dentist, nurse and teacher did.  Then a new job emerged – the middle manager.  We asked our parents what they did b

Women and the Word “Just”

Those of you that have read a lot of my articles know I love to give a different perspective anytime there is an issue based on something women do differently from men and there is the assumption that what women do is wrong or inferior.   Last week I was going through old emails from

How Women Become Empowered

The tagline to my website is “Empowering Women to Lead the Male-Dominated Workplace.”  Since writing it, I’ve been amazed at how controversial this statement is.   This is because as a society we created a controversy instead of simply understanding the different perspectives men and

Speaking from a Female Perspective Isn’t Sexist

I read a post from a male friend on facebook who was upset over Carly Fiorina quoting Margret Thatcher during the Republican debate: “If you want something talked about, ask a man. If you want something done, ask a woman.” He was angry at her for both saying it and thinking it. He

Finally All Military Combat Positions Open to Women

I was going to publish another article but just saw that the Secretary of Defense is going to announce a plan to open all combat positions to women. I’m glad women will now have the opportunities I couldn’t. When I was in the Air Force women weren’t allowed to be any “combat” position

Women’s Number One Advantage in the Male-Dominated Workplace

Recently I had a discussion with an older retired woman who started her career in engineering in the 70’s. She spent her college days and most of her career as the woman in the room. Shortly into our talk she brought up how her male colleagues would drive her nuts. It wasn’t how they