Why Retiring is Wrong

This is from my friend Natalie Hill.  While many men in Tucson retire out to pasture on the golf course, their wives keep “working” pursuing their interests and passions.  This is one of the things that make Tucson different from any other place I’ve ever lived ̵

How To Get Justice When You Are Wronged

We experience a wrong-doing at work.  It upsets us.  We want justice.  We want management to be just as outraged and upset as us but they aren’t.  They just make it to go away.  This makes us even angrier that this is how the system works.  It isn’t fair. We have all been there – expe

Why Women Are Mean to Other Women In the Workplace?

We want to think of women as caring and we hope their presence makes the workplace a more cooperative environment.  As one of my female traits I list that women work in groups and we assume that their groups are cooperative and supportive.  While we want to associate women with positi

Women and the Word “Just”

Those of you that have read a lot of my articles know I love to give a different perspective anytime there is an issue based on something women do differently from men and there is the assumption that what women do is wrong or inferior.   Last week I was going through old emails from

Our Fear of Being Powerful

I want to share a quote I’ve seen several times this past year:   “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, t

Are Male and Female Brains the Same or Different?

Recently I read a blog that announced there was no difference between male and female brains.  The author was too anxious to state that men’s and women’s brains are the same and therefore men and women are the same, that she missed some important information.  She didn’t read th

Finally All Military Combat Positions Open to Women

I was going to publish another article but just saw that the Secretary of Defense is going to announce a plan to open all combat positions to women. I’m glad women will now have the opportunities I couldn’t. When I was in the Air Force women weren’t allowed to be any “combat” position

Only A Woman Can Save This Company!

I started this website to teach other women the concepts I successfully used in my career.  Little did I know that I preparing myself for my biggest challenge yet into the male-dominated workplace. I want to share this experience because I was in such an extreme condition and yet I dr

Pearls of Wisdom

When I entered the Air Force many years ago, I was told that I needed a “Sponsor” to help ensure my rise through the ranks. My Sponsor should be a higher ranking officer who was upwardly mobile. My Sponsor should also have a Sponsor who was a well-connected senior ranking officer wh

Finding the Formula For Making Coffee

I came across this story that a woman (Linda) posted on LinkedIn.  It goes along with a lot of my recent posts so I want to share it with you.  This is one of those stories that we like to pass on.  And generally that is what we would do. But I want to take it one (actually several) s

2012 Year of the Woman; 2013 Year of the Businessman Hero

I came across a statement I made in an article : The successful businessman is the Hero and the driver of our society. If you are paying attention to the stock market, 2013 is proving this statement is true. I don’t know what made me do it but on January 20th I turned on CNBC.

Celebrate the Milestones!

The Woman In The Room is one year old!! For me this is a milestone and cause to celebrate! At work, how do you celebrate milestones and achievements? Are they subdued? Do you talk about doing something and then nothing really materializes? Who is responsible for or takes the le

The Woman In The Arena

I like to express myself at work. If I had my druthers, I would start every day blaring a song that fit the mood of the day. But I was never quite able to put together a large enough sound system. So I found another method. I started digging up quotes to fit the mood and plaster

Women Help Companies Improve Collaboration – So What?

One of the traits women are most credited with is improving collaboration. We get more people to open up and participate in conversations and problem solving. The result is a more complete solution to a problem. Sounds great – in theory! The issue many women face is that coll

A Woman Personalizes Her Business To Lead

Have you ever noticed years that singers have their biggest hits when they sing songs that they pick or write themselves, not what the industry tells them to sing? They do best when they connect with a song to express who they really are. When I think about this Garth Brooks

Energizing Women To Lead the Male-Dominated Workplace

I never really liked my tag line “Empowering Women for Success in the Male-Dominated Workplace.” To me it sounds kind of blah-blah, boring typical professional language. I always felt it was missing something – that it wasn’t exactly hitting the mark of what I needed to say, but I

How To Map Processes, The Simple Way

I tell women to learn their company’s operating and management systems as a foundation for building a success career. But most women (and men) have never been taught how to think in terms of systems or how to map out processes so my advice may seem daunting. If you took the initia

If I Have To Get Down In The Weeds…

Have you ever heard a manager say “If I have to get down in the weeds then what do I need you for?” I’ve heard it many times. Why do they say that? Is it just to make you feel inferior – incapable of doing your job? When I hear a manager say this, my first thought is that he d

Working With Women In Traditional Roles

When you are a woman entering a traditionally male role you will be focused on your relationships with your male peers and supervisors. But you also need to focus on your relationships with your female co-workers in traditional jobs. You may assume that the women in the office will

Should Women Strive For The Top 0.1%?

I read a book by Chrystia Freeland called Plutocrats – The Rise Of The New Global Super-Rich And The Fall Of Everyone Else. I was interested in the subject because I saw parallels to my Swamp War articles and several ideas I had swimming around in my head. What are Plutocrats? T