Tag: female empowerment

  • Turn The Knob

    Turn The Knob

    All through my career I faced closed doors.   On the other side of the doors were the All-Boys Clubs.  I could have let each closed door stop me but as I looked at the door, I also saw knob.

    So, I turned the knob, opened the door and walked in.

    It was easy.

    Of course, men were surprised to see me. but I knew I had just as much right to be there as any man.  I knew my credentials, experience and achievements actually gave me more right to be there than many of the men.

    And this may shock many women – the vast majority of men accepted me and made me part of their group.

    Remember closed doors have knobs.  So, turn the knob and walk in.

    Empowered Women Don’t Let Closed Doors Stop Them

  • How To Control Toxic Men

    How To Control Toxic Men

    “Toxic Masculinity” makes women concerned about working with men. However, since I spent my career in environments where women expect to find lots of toxic men and toxic masculinity to run rampant, I want to share what I learned about toxic behavior and how to control it.

    Working in a hard-core male industry I found that out of every 10-15 men, I could expect to find 1 toxic man.

    I usually identified him because he spent a lot of time trying to make himself sound important or tough. He was usually the man I found to be the most obnoxious.

    As women we frequently think their aggressive behavior makes a toxic man the Alpha male – and that is exactly what he wants us to think. 

    As women, since we don’t understand relationship dynamics of our male colleagues, we get a lot of things about them wrong. For example, we’re taught that the Alpha male is horrible, toxic, oppressive, epitomizing every male behavior we hate.

    That is NOT true!

    So, watch this video and learn how the male dynamic really works.

    And by the way, my feedback from men has been that I got this right!

    Empowered Women Know How To Deal With Toxic Men

  • From Little Girl to Leader

    From Little Girl to Leader

    I’ve been anticipating it and it finally happened.  Someone, (Ed Rollins) called Alexandria Ocasio Cortez “little girl.”

    Of course, AOC thought the comment was pure misogyny.  And her response probably caused lots of old guys to chuckle and shake their heads saying, “Oh little girl, you have so much to learn.”

    Obviously, there is a huge generation gap at play but in this case the “little girl” moniker is something AOC shouldn’t dismiss.  It’s a warning she should heed.

    Remember when Trump called Marco Rubio “Little Marco?”  It wasn’t a reference to his hand size or the size of anything else.  The slam meant that Rubio was still wet behind his ears.  He didn’t have the breadth of experience to be President.  Sure, Rubio had a lot of political policy positions, but he lacked real-world experience.  He was never responsible for executing his policy positions or accountable for their results.

    Rubio didn’t experience the hard knocks, leaving him green and untried.  Trump picked up on this created the “Little Marco” nickname.

    But Trump also gave him some respect.  He didn’t call him “Little Boy Marco.”

    Being called “little boy” or “little girl” means you don’t have the basic the knowledge to come up with good ideas.  It means you still need to learn how the world and your workplace function before you open your mouth and express your ideas.

    We are all “little boys” and “little girls” in the beginning of our careers.  Even though we have a college or technical degree, we haven’t applied our education out in the real world.  Therefore, we haven’t discovered the many ways our book learning fails against the realities of the world.

    We need to spend our early years wisely because what we learn in these years sets the path for the rest of our career.  We need to tackle challenging assignments and experience the hard knocks.  This is how we us learn and grow.  But most importantly, it’s how we earn respect.

    AOC needs that experience.  When she answers questions, her gaffs reveal how much she still has to learn.  So, she needs to spend the next few years quietly learning, challenging herself and growing.

    But unfortunately, she is in the social media spotlight.  And she may be confusing media popularity with respect.  She needs some old school mentors to pull her out of the spotlight, take her under their wing and challenge her.

    If she expects to be taken seriously, her ideas have to do more than sound and feel good.  She must make them complete and feasible.  She needs to figure out how to make them work in the real world.  Then she must have the courage to present them and be held accountable for their execution and their outcome.

    This is how it works in the real world for anyone, man or woman, who wants to be a leader.

    Empowered Women Don’t Stay “Little Girls”